CHILDREN AS PAWNS PART TWO

Some parents are caught up in a divorce situation with no relief in sight with the full support of a malicious court that escalates the situation, as the other parent considers children as their never ending possession. Every attempt is made to interfere, destroy and vilify an existing parent child bond.

There is the parent that cannot tolerate that children spend 5 minutes with the other parent, for fear of losing control of their children as they “Believe” that children will transfer affection to the other parent, not realizing that children actually do love both parents.  The focus is on absolute control and using children as pawns and weapons against the other parent.

There is the parent that bribes children to prevent them from spending any time with the other parent with promises of ice creams, toys etc to attempt to establish themselves as the “good” parent in the eyes of children, undermining and sabotaging the relationship that children have with the other parent.  Children quickly learn the game of manipulating a parent for materialistic items in that scenario.

There is the parent who uses the children as cash cows to count and hinder every minute that children spend with the other parent for child support purposes.

There is the parent who uses children as weapons and pawns to perpetuate and continue with abuse against the other parent and who manipulates the court system to do precisely that, thriving on the absolute control and perceived power that they think they have gained.

In each and every scenario it is the child that loses out on a positive relationship with either parent, as that type of undermining and escalating destruction of a parent child relationship has severe long term and negative consequences on the child and will affect any adult relationship that may develop in future.

Parents have a duty to put aside their own issues and hatred with their exes and put their children first.

Sadly, some controlling personalities, mainly those with substance abuse issues, are absolutely unable to do that and their children will suffer endlessly as a result.

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s