The our family wizard tool http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/ofw/ is a database that is used in all fifty states as a communication mechanism between parents. The court routinely orders it to be used in certain high conflict cases, to “resolve” in the court’s eyes the conflict and manipulates parents to use it. Since it is a third party tool affiliated with each court, the presumption is that there is some quid pro quo benefit for each party. The question is does the forced communication using a third party website, that most parents generally have to pay for, work?
In some cases yes, in others no. In cases where there is stalking involved, it is used as a stalking tool. In cases where there is abusive communication involved it is used as an additional battery tool as the court really demonstratively could care less if your peace of mind is disturbed.
The stalking consists of cyberstalking as the wizard has a feature which allows a person to view the logins of the other parent. It is fairly obvious what the intent is when email is sent with the sole purpose to harass and annoy and the stalker logs in repeatedly on a daily basis to “observe” if the other person logged and read whatever the intent was to harass and annoy with.
So in addition to the day to day drive by stalking, involving third parties in stalking, leaving threatening voice messages on a phone and stalking by defamation the court forces a cyberstalking tool on the victim.
The National Center for Justice defines stalking as the following: ” Like domestic violence, stalking is a crime of power and control. Stalking is conservatively defined as “a course of conduct directed at a specific person that involves repeated (two or more occasions) visual or physical proximity, nonconsensual communication, or verbal, written, or implied threats, or a combination thereof, that would cause a reasonable person fear.”  Stalking behaviors also may include persistent patterns of leaving or sending the victim unwanted items or presents that may range from seemingly romantic to bizarre, following or laying in wait for the victim, damaging or threatening to damage the victim’s property, defaming the victim’s character, or harassing the victim via the Internet by posting personal information or spreading rumors about the victim.”
For the uninitiated and naive person it is difficult to imagine the depth of depravity that the stalker will resort to in order to achieve his/her stalking fix. As with any abnormal behavior the person stalking obtains a thrill out of the stalking behavior with a feeling of entitlement to the possession that he/she is stalking. The Our Family Wizard site features merely serve to perpetuate the stalking obsession, in these types of cases.